Important!!! Here Are 10 Principles For Conflict Resolution In Marriage:

You must understand that the conflict is not more important than how you handle it. By following the principles below, you will handle conflicts the right way.

1. Understand that conflict is unavoidable, and not necessarily bad. It is normal to experience marital conflict; all couples do. Rather than trying to avoid conflict, try to use it as a powerful tool to grow.

2. Don’t raise your voice. A soft answer quietens anger but a hash one stirs it up (Proverbs 15:1). Understand that how you talk during an argument determines the outcome of the argument.

3. Avoid bringing past mistakes and failures always. Practice handling each challenge individually without connecting it to a past mistake or fault always.

Important!!! Here Are 10 Principles For Conflict Resolution In Marriage:

4. Manage your anger. Avoid saying words that are hurtful to your spouse just because you are angry. Whilst at times it may be normal to be angry, understand that when anger is not managed it will develop into hatred.

5. Avoid pride. Just because your spouse has admitted they are wrong does not mean you should torment them. Remember you are not God who does not sin and is always right.

6. Don’t talk without thinking. Talking without thinking is a sign of immaturity. Engage your mind more than your emotions. Remember emotions are like weather, they quickly change but a word said cannot be unsaid.

7. Have the right attitude. It’s not about winning an argument but it’s about winning the relationship. Your spouse is more important than your ego. Let love be your motivation.

8. Be Brief. Proverbs 10:19 says, ‘In the multitude of words sin there will be no end to sin’.

9. Be forgiving (Ephesians 4:32). Forgiveness is proof of your commitment and love in marriage. You are like God when you forgive. If you forgive you will also be forgiven.

10. Seek outside help. Bring your conflict to a pastor, when you’re facing a situation such as violence, uncontrollable anger, past trauma or abuse, an unwillingness to make or keep rules, or a deadlock on a recurring issue.



By Apostle Adolphas Chibanda.